Hospice Nurse Shares Top 3 Regrets People Tell Her Moments Before They Die – Community

There are some things that are universal when it comes to life and death, but three things stand out the most.

We’ve talked a lot about the last words or actions of those who are at the end of their lives, and this can vary a lot from person to person.

From visions of angels to the most common phrases they use before they die, there is a lot that happens in the final stages of life.

But what about their biggest regrets?

That’s where Hospice Nurse Hadley comes in.

As a registered and professional nurse who cares for people during their final moments on Earth, she has a list of the three most common things her patients regret.

You can’t take it with you when you leave

Hadley shared that many of her patients taught her, “Don’t chase material things, chase happy memories.” »

She explained that often, “they would have liked to spend more time with family.”

Stop waiting for the perfect moment. Start now!

“Not pursuing a task because of the time it would take to complete,” is the next regret.

Hadley shared that someone once told her they wish they understood that time passes anyway, so starting the task, five to ten years may seem like a long time, but five to ten years feels like a long time. will flow anyway and you may either have achieved the dream or not.

Do things for yourself, not for others

Ultimately, it’s putting yourself first.

The nurse described having as a patient a lady who regretted not doing the things she wanted to do because she feared that her downstairs neighbor would judge her. But ultimately, at the end of her life, she realized that the woman she was so afraid to talk about was eventually dying and could no longer speak ill of her choices.

Essentially, she began to understand that we all die and therefore living life for yourself is the only priority you should have.

One viewer understood exactly what Hadley was saying because she had experienced a similar wake-up call.

They wrote: “I had the unusual experience of being told that I was about to die, and also that I could die at any moment. It was many years ago, but being so close to death completely changed me. I warn you all that when you are about to die, you will wish you had watched more sunsets and focused more on the people and things that REALLY matter. Ultimately, many human efforts seem remarkably stupid and pointless.

End-of-life regrets are common, but they’re usually prefaced with the term “I wish,” says death doula Katie Costello, who recently participated in a roundtable discussion on death for LADbible TV.

Katie explained: “What I hear the most from people is just the ‘I wish’ on a daily basis. The one thing I hear most often from people is “I should have done that” (or) “I wish”. I’ve been there… and it’s never something material.

“It’s always linked to the memory they would have liked to create, to the place they would have liked to visit.”