Woman Doesn’t Follow Her Mother-in-Law’s Sweet Potato Casserole Recipe – and Now the Family is Mad

“She categorically said she didn’t eat it and neither did anyone else because I ‘grossly’ didn’t follow the recipe she sent me,” the woman wrote on Reddit.

• Anonymous poster on Reddit says her future mother-in-law asked her to bring a dish to the family’s Thanksgiving celebration – but she didn’t realize she would be expected to use the old recipe family sweet potato casserole.

• When the woman showed up to the meal with a different variation of the dish, the mother-in-law became angry.

• Now the mother-in-law has started a group message and said that she will no longer host Thanksgiving in the future.

A woman says her future mother-in-law is angry with her after she brought sweet potato casserole to an early Thanksgiving dinner — and didn’t use the old family recipe.

In a post shared on Reddit, a 28-year-old woman wrote that her fiancé’s family got together early for Thanksgiving and was asked to bring a home-cooked meal.

“Shortly after the plans were made, I received a text from the MIL asking if I wanted to bring a dish,” she wrote. “I love cooking, it’s one of my main hobbies… After I said yes, she asked me to make sweet potato casserole. Very easy, I’m happy to do it.”

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About a week before the dinner, the woman’s future mother-in-law sent her a photo of a written recipe for sweet potato casserole with an attached message: “Let me know if you have any questions!”

“I responded wholeheartedly to the message and left it at that. She hadn’t mentioned sharing a recipe with me before and sent it without any context, I assumed she was just trying to be nice,” the woman wrote. “Plus, I’m not a fan of marshmallows, and the recipe she sent me included them and white sugar instead of brown sugar — double the amount I would normally put in a sweet potato casserole. “

Before dinner, the wife started making her own version of the dish – one with brown sugar instead of white and a pecan crumble topping instead of marshmallows.

When the couple arrived at her parents’ house later that day, her mother-in-law took the dish and brought it to the kitchen.

When it came time to eat, everyone gathered around to eat buffet style – and that’s when the woman noticed something was happening.

“I finally got to the end (and) noticed that no one had taken my sweet potato casserole,” she wrote. “I tried not to feel depressed because we were having a great time. Later, I got up to refill my plate and once again noticed that almost no casserole was eaten.”

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After the meal, the woman approached her mother-in-law and asked her what she thought of the dish.

“She flatly said she didn’t eat it and neither did anyone else because I ‘grossly’ didn’t follow the recipe she sent me,” she wrote. “I said I didn’t realize the recipe she sent was a requirement, I thought she was just trying to be helpful. I then received a private lecture in the kitchen about “l “Thanksgiving etiquette” and that if someone requests a specific dish, then it should be prepared so that everyone involved will enjoy it.

She continued: “I was so embarrassed and trying not to cry because she had never spoken to me that way. Never. I told her that I never intended to upset her and that the casserole I made still tasted like sweet potato casserole, as if it wasn’t an entirely new dish or anything, but she maintained that it was rude of me to completely ignore the recipe. sent and that some family members had quietly come to her to complain about it (I don’t know if that’s true, no one else said anything to me).”

After dinner, the woman confided in her fiancé and he sent a strong message to her mother, telling her that she had overreacted.

A day later, the woman and her fiancé were added to a group message with several other family members, including her mother, who wrote: “Since some people have a problem with the way I do Thanksgiving, I will not host Thanksgiving. again next year.”

The woman later sent a further apology to her fiancé’s mother, saying she had a “very nice time” and didn’t want to cause any trouble.

But the mother never responded.

Commenters weighed in with their opinions, with almost everyone siding with the woman who wrote the post – and arguing that the mother-in-law had indeed overreacted.

“You weren’t told the recipe was mandatory and your MIL overreacted to a misunderstanding about a dish you lovingly prepared,” one wrote.

“The MIL is a control freak, childish and overreacting,” another added. “She could have explained that she wanted it prepared a certain way, but personally I think it’s rude to ask someone to prepare a dish and then expect them to do it your own way.”