wife is the only reason for his divorce because she could not give up this “innocent” habit

Layna and her girlfriends had a habit that was slowly destroying her marriage. It had nothing to do with partying or staying out late. It also didn’t have to do with time away, money spent, or typical bad behavior.

However, this habit was as detrimental to his marriage as a slow-growing antibiotic-resistant bacteria that was making his marriage sicker and sicker. It took root when she was on the phone with her friends, then took a strong hold over coffee and completely took over her girlfriend’s shopping trips.

Worse still, it was contagious. Some of his friends caught it and it began to have serious negative effects on their marriage. What mysterious illness was operating and spreading behind the scenes among Layna and her friends?

The innocent habit she couldn’t give up that would eventually lead to divorce? Husband denigration.

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When Layna had a friend’s ear, she would inevitably drift the conversation to her husband, Josh, and how lazy he was at home. She cursed the day they bought the Xbox because now all he wanted to do was play that thing. What he didn’t want to do was work in the garden, and especially not clean. Not to mention he barely spoke to her anymore.

Layna was apt to be tied up, and as she talked to her friends about the problem, she discovered she wasn’t alone. There was a lot of good company in the husband dissatisfaction club. Many girls felt frustrated, overworked and unappreciated. Their feelings are supported by research published in the Adultspan Journal. As the conversation grew over the weeks and months, the club seemed to grow.

At first, Layna was comforted by the fact that she wasn’t alone in denigrating her husband.

It wasn’t exactly like “misery loves company,” but at its core, the camaraderie of the plaintiffs was nice. She sort of thought they were doing themselves a good service. Complain to each other, spare your man the complaints.

She also knew that none of the men were spared from the remarks. In her case, at least, the more she complained to the girls, the more she had to take it out on Josh.

The law of attraction simply says that you get more of what you put your attention on. Layna and the ladies played this law to their detriment, and before they knew it, they had more of what they didn’t like about their husbands on their hands than they knew what to do with.

After several months of this behavior, Layna realized, with the help of her mother, her mistake. Old habits die hard, but Layna has vowed to rid herself of the blame behind her back and, even though she was a founding member, left the husband-shaming club.

Fast forward six weeks and the Xbox is broken, the garden is mowed, and Josh is building a tool/potting shed. She says they have a place to work outside together. Coincidence? You decide for yourself. I don’t think so. Layna agrees with me.

The moral of the story is that words are powerful creators in themselves. Be careful about the words you say about the people you have to live with.

Lisa Hayes C.Ht. is a law of attraction relationship coach and author. She specializes in helping people get the love they want, no matter where they are in their lives.