Neighbor asks woman not to use the toilet in the morning

You know the saying: “Good fences make good neighbors?” There’s a reason people say that, and one woman learned that lesson in the weirdest way.

The woman was left stunned after receiving a bizarre request from her apartment neighbor about her bathroom habits.

Writing in the ‘Miss Manners’ advice column, a friend of the unnamed woman claimed the older woman and her neighbor were at odds because her morning toilet routine was disruptive.

A woman didn’t know what to do when her neighbor asked her not to use the toilet in the morning.

“A friend asked for advice on how to deal with a neighbor who asked her to be quiet. My friend, who is in her 60s, recently moved into an apartment. She met a neighbor who asked her if she was a early riser and she responded. “Yes,” the friend began.

“The neighbor then told her that she was too noisy on the stairs and that she went to the toilet too often.”

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The neighbor said her morning habits kept them from sleeping.

Not wanting to cause trouble with her neighbor, the older woman promised she would try to be more attentive to his noise level.

She has started to hold on to the railing going up and down the stairs, but the steps are made of metal and concrete and just make noise no matter how carefully she walks.

On top of that, she simply can’t change her bathroom habits to accommodate her neighbor. The woman’s friend questioned how the older woman should handle another confrontation with her neighbor if it were to happen again, emphasizing that she was trying to be as respectful as possible.

Frankly, she is more caring than the neighbor deserves. It’s a bit absurd to require someone living in their own apartment to change their bathroom habits to accommodate someone living in a completely different apartment.

Maybe this woman should demand that her neighbor change her sleeping habits to accommodate her preference to wake up early.

Living in an apartment building means having to deal with noise from neighbors.

The truth is that living in an apartment building means dealing with the noise level of people living in neighboring units.

Unless they are extremely loud and obnoxious in the late hours of a Monday night, you can’t really dictate how or when someone should go about their daily business.

If a woman’s noise in her bathroom is as disruptive as she claims, then perhaps she should invest in earplugs, a white noise machine, or some other form of soundproofing that will allow her to to sleep as long as she wants. . But asking someone not to use their bathroom in the morning is not reasonable.

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Apartment living sometimes has its downsides, and that’s just the reality. As long as you are conscious and attentive, there is not much else you can do.

Responding to the dilemma, “Miss Manners,” explained that being a good neighbor simply means having to manage the behaviors of those who live around you, as well as the expectations of what it means to be a polite neighbor.

“If the course of the initial encounter was as reported, then your friend was already mistreated when she was told, rather than asked, to change her (necessary and normal) behavior.”

She continued: “It is best to keep a distance from a neighbor who is not inclined to be civil. If literal distance is not possible, then polite composure – and promptly apologizing for any chance encounters future – will have to suffice.”

Nia Tipton is a Chicago-based entertainment, news, and lifestyle writer whose work focuses on today’s issues and experiences.